If you have been in a church body for any length of time, you have seen this or experienced it for yourself. People will decide to leave one church and go to another church, or perhaps you have left a church and gone to another. It does not matter what the reasons are exactly. The transfer to a different assembly is not always the wrong thing to do. The problem is that many times it is done the wrong way.
I have counseled people who want to quit their jobs, to wait until everything is going good, then quit your job. If we quit a job or leave a church because we are angry it is a dark cloud that will loom over your head for a long time. I have seen it in my own life and in the lives of others.
Maybe we just don't understand the big picture. Our jobs and church experience is not ALWAYS gonna be about you and your feelings or experiences. Work places and churches are filled with people. People are funny sometimes, pathetic sometimes even. But that is not a good reason to throw in the towel on people in general. In the work place or in the Church.
Your priority as a Christian is to be a follower and disciple of Jesus Christ. No one can do that for you. Peter said on the day of Pentecost in Acts 2, "Save yourselves from this untoward generation." You have a responsibility in this Christian experience, and it is to follow Jesus. That is your mission, your priority. A strong healthy church can help you do that.
Our first priority as Christians is to BE a disciple of Jesus.
The priority of a healthy church is to make disciples of people who are not currently followers of Jesus. You as a disciple of Jesus, can help the church fulfill it's main priority of making more disciples. (I am going to be misunderstood maybe), I think trying to minister to every possible scenario inside the church does not strengthen us, it dilutes us. We lose site of our main mission, which is to minister outside the walls of the church.
The first priority of a healthy church is to MAKE disciples.
Remember in the Frank Capra movie "It's a Wonderful Life" when Clarence the Angel and George Bailly went into Martini's bar (in the alternate Bedford Falls)? Clarence wanted some sort of "froofy" drink and the bar-tender said, "Listen Bub we serve hard liquor here for people who...". The bar was packed. Everyone knew what they wanted and they knew where to get it.
What if our church mission was, "To help people find hope and healing in the Holy Ghost". That saying is on the sign in front of our church. Let's Be The Church, so when people need something stronger in a time of need, they can find it in Jesus. If people leave church because it is not a trendy or cool place, who will help Make Disciples?
The bottom line is, you and I called, to be The Church.